Monday Matters

Everyday Costumes

I have a hobby or perhaps my husband would call it a problem. I like to self-decorate or costume myself with outfits and in the past this hobby has resulted in me going into credit card debt. Several years ago, before shopping at the Mall of America I wrote in my journal a prayer; “Jesus than You for You. Thanks for things too. Today help me with spending. I ask for a coat that just ‘fits’ me. Help. Amen.”

I went to a consignment store and found a designer coat that had just gone on half price. Then I walked into a consignment shop and found a purple skirt that had my name on it. I stayed within my budget. What’s always so crazy cool too is to see that what I’ve read in the Bible on the same day fits too; “Grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus.” All glory is His. What matters to us matters to God too. But honestly, it’s His presence more than His presents I want…everyday.

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Everyday Earth Hope

This earth is not our home. Good…because it’s so stinkin’ hard some days. I so often have to look up & find hope to move forward. Hope is basically the belief that something good is going to happen, there’s something better that’s ahead. We need hope for this earth experience now, but we also have an eternal hope when we confess and profess that Jesus is Lord and the only one who can remove our guilty sins.

One of the most helpful things I can do is to go public with my struggles while sharing the hope that I have. When I openly share my hard places and say a promise, say from Philippians 1:6, where God tells us, “He Who began a good work in us will be faithful to complete it until the day He returns,” I find that I’m not alone because someone else needed to hear exactly the same thing. The earth experience is hard but there’s always hope. Keep on keeping on…everyday.

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Everyday Feet Washing

It hurts so much when someone we know as a friend shares things about our character that aren’t true. I remember a speaker sharing her own experience on this.

She felt she had forgiven her friend but every time she drove past her girlfriend’s home, resentment and pangs of hurt would surround her. She prayed. God answered. He told her He wanted her to picture Him washing her feet everyday thus showing her how much He loves and forgives her. She spent this time with Jesus and then the day came when He said, “Now I want you to wash your friend’s feet, “Okay but make sure the water is scalding,” she thought. It startled her that this was where her heart was, but she obeyed. She prayed and let the Holy Spirit change her as she mentally washed the feet of her friend. She’s still not in a restored friendship but she no longer has deep hurt when driving by her friend’s home. She’s let the love God has given to her be given to her friend…everyday.

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Everyday Jesus Governs

I remember sharing a message with the teen youth group. I chose Isaiah 9:6 which begins; For unto us a Child is born, to us a Son is given; and the government shall be upon His shoulder…” And I thought how the government that is upon Jesus’ shoulders is not a political government but really refers to the governing in our lives. We are not supposed to be running our own lives. In fact, we aren’t qualified. I certainly don’t have the brains to know what is best so I’m so super thankful for God’s intervention and His love to guide my life. You see, the more God’s government increases in your life, the more He directs your thoughts, conversations, decision and action, well the more you have peace!

You need to be right with God just like I do so we have the peace on what He’s done and not what we’ve done. For me it was all about being on stage as an actress but now I see it’s not about my position or personality but about seeking HIM first where He fills me up with all I need…everyday.

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Everyday Peace of God

What is the peace of God? Can it be explained? I’ve discovered this: Peace is a knowing and not a feeling. One evening, a few years after my scoliosis back surgery in 2003, the rods along my spine seemed to wake-up and pinch certain nerves so I was in excruciating pain. Plus, I was on the bathroom floor vomiting into the toilet from the flu. After hours of this, fear crept in.

I wanted to feel better but more than that I wanted my fear and anxiousness to leave. John 14:27 popped into my head reminding me that God gives peace no matter what’s happening to me, no matter how awful it is. So I said aloud; “Jesus, I choose to receive the peace You give.” Something happened. I didn’t instantly feel better, but I KNEW better. I knew in my heart that God was with me and my pain and sickness would pass. There was hope. Knowing the peace of God rather depending on your feelings is a game changer…everyday.

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Everyday Psalm Covering

When feeling lonely or afraid I go to the Psalms for comfort. It’s actually helpful to lament and express what we’re feeling so we don’t let us consume us. Psalm 91:4 really hit me the other day; “Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. He will shield you with His wings. He will shelter you with His feathers. His faithful promises are your armor and protection.” Imagine God like the Psalm reads-- a strong and majestic eagle Who’s there to shield you with His wings and protect you with His feathers.

When you’re fearful and anxious don’t think about the “what ifs” and other scenarios that will make you more anxious. Instead think about God’s promises of protection and redemption. In Romans 8:28 He promises to work all things for the good. Not all things are good, but God always is. It takes courage to walk forward in faith despite your feelings, but you can do it because God, the Protector will cover you and He’s as near as your heartbeat...everyday.

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Everyday No More Shame

The message of Jesus is to LOVE and forgive others, which you can only do once you have seen your bad self and accepted His forgiveness. There’s this past so many people carry around that they cover because it’s filled with shame from harming themselves through “cutting,” an eating disorders, an affair, alcohol, abuse suffered, it’s all yuck. I read that 80% of memories are shame based. People carry shame because they think once they’re fully exposed or discovered they won’t ever be accepted or loved. But when their identity is solid, they’re stable. That’s why it’s vital that you hear who God says you are, loved, redeemed, not a mistake AND there’s sufficient grace for every second.

Psalm 91:1 is my 911 verse. It reads; “She who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will remain stable.” It means that when I can stand still and let myself be exposed. God covers me, my shame, my fear and replaces all that I’m not with all that He is. God can see the real you and He loves you…everyday.

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Everyday Boldness in Fear

“My husband has cancer” I wrote that in the subject line of an email that I sent to family and friends in 2010. My brother responded, “Wow, Deb that’s powerfully blunt to write in the subject line.” I know. But it helps me to face what I fear. There are so many times the enemy has used fear to immobilize me, and in those times, he whispers lies against the truth I know. Philippians 1:28 is great because it says that not for a moment should we be frightened or intimidated by our adversaries, for such constancy and fearlessness will be a clear sign to them of their impending destruction, but sure evidence of our deliverance from God.”

Satan knows that the only way he can overcome a believer is through deception and intimidation. Sometimes, I get so frustrated with myself when what I know to be true from God, gets knocked out by my intense feelings, but God understands that about me too. Dan is cancer free, and we thank God, but we thank Him because He’s good no matter what happens…everyday.

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Everyday Flower Shout

I am not a gardening type of gal, so I was thrilled when a many years ago my 9-year-old Joey took on the responsibility of planting and watering the flowers in our large window box. One day as he was watering the flowers I heard him shouting in short staccato intervals which made him sound like a barking dog. Joey, “What is going on?” I said as I ran outside. Why are you doing?” “I’m giving the flowers a shout. “I’m gonna do this everyday because, you know, Mom the carbon dioxide from my shouts helps them to grow.”

“Alrighty,” I said and walked inside thinking how funny it was but also how this shouting could be effective for me too. Psalm 100:1 says, “Shout with joy to the Lord!” The goal is not to shout to get the joy or try to feel the joy but more because we have the joy and we want to release it with a shout. I’ve decided that joyful shouting is a good way for me to bloom right where I’m planted…everyday.

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Everyday I need help

I get many messages of grief because of broken relationships Recently Bonnie wrote, “I'm going through a divorce, after 36 years. I'm not doing well. Can you send me some scriptures about depression and self-esteem?” “I’m so sorry about your divorce. It’s so hard,” I wrote. The only way you can walk away in peace is resting in the One who is Peace.

The main scriptures I’d focus on are ones that remind you of who you are in Christ. You know it’s nothing you have to do for His love but it’s receiving what He did for you. It’s about knowing who you are in Him. It would help to repeat the truth of who you are; “I am a daughter of the King” (Romans 8:17), “He has good plans for my life” (Jeremiah 29:11) and “He will work all things for the good.” (Romans 8:28). This should help you get on “the track of hope.” God grieves with you. He understands and He has a plan of redemption in place to see you through. I’m praying for you. You are loved…everyday.

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Everyday Good Trials

“Life is hard.” That’s a statement that can pretty much resonate with anyone because either you’re in a trial, coming out of one or you’re soon to face a trial. If you’re familiar with the Bible, you also realize that God allows trials because He loves you and wants what’s ultimately good for you! Is this crazy talk? It is but if you know the Bible you’ll see that it’s through the trials that you’ll be transformed. If we never had trials, we would never need faith.

Going through a terrible trial of anxiety and depression, which I call the wilderness walk of 2009, I can honestly say that this season in my life refined and made surrender to God because my flesh didn’t know what else to do but despair. Good things in our lives usually come by way of transformation, and not by focusing on “everyone else” who needs to change or our circumstances. It’s the truth of 1 Peter 4 that we have the same attitude as Christ being ready to suffer but after persevering, we are made ready to do the will of God and enjoy freedom…everyday.

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Everyday Excuses

I can pray to God, “Dear God I pray to lose weight” but unless surrender to God to work in me to change by eating differently and exercising nothing’s going to happen. My mind can justify and make excuses for my behavior but what I really need is a heart change.

I remember having this discussion with my son Peter when he was little. He had all these excuses why he had kicked his brother and yelled at me, “Mom,” he said, “if Joey hadn’t taken my army guy and you hadn’t given me the wrong snack I wouldn’t be having problems.” Fortunate for Peter I had been reading in the book of James and so I told him what Chapter 4 had to say, “Pete, we can always blame someone else for our problems but when we let go and ask God for His help for the changes we need to make, rather than asking Him to change the other person, He promises to lift us up. We need Him to make the difference in the way we live our lives and treat others... everyday.”

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Everyday Grace Is Not Fair

Grace isn’t fair. And I’m glad of it. I need it. It’s God’s gift of complete forgiveness that we simply receive, we don’t even have to ask for it. He’s gone to the cross for us, paid a penalty we never could and gives us mercy we can’t earn, nor do we deserve it. We are free to live now and with the hope of eternity.

Surely, God’s grace is feeling loved when you don't deserve it. It’s kindness of the greatest proportion. We can only give grace to another who’s undeserving when we’ve entered into a relationship with Christ with the unconditional love and grace He gives us. We don’t need religion. We need grace.

I see people walk away from churches, institutions and theology but I’ve never seen anyone walk away from the grace of God. God’s love is not based on how good we are but on how good He is. There’s nothing that surprises Him and He’s always aware of who we are and why we do what we do. He redeems all things and love you, no strings or conditions attached…everyday.

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Everyday Shields of Faith

When my husband had cancer thirteen years ago it was hard, it was scary. Hey this is Debbie Griffith with Everyday Matters. My relationship with God enabled me to have peace despite the circumstances. Thankfully, Dan is now cancer free but at the time of the tumor, surgery and chemo I had to be intentional to stop and breathe and let my anxiousness go to God. Of course the enemy is always prowling around trying to steal our peace like we read from 1 Peter 5:8.

One night I had a dream of my husband Dan and I standing in a circle between two pillars that spelled the word, “IS.” “What did that mean?” God said: “My grace IS sufficient.” “My power IS perfected in weakness.” And then I saw people praying in a circle around us, facing outwards and protecting us with shields of faith. The enemy was prowling around trying to find an entrance in hoping shake us up but the power of prayer and faith prevented him. Remember GOD is good and He IS greater…everyday.

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Everyday Ask God

Should I do it? What do you think? Maybe I should put a poll out on social media? Sure, it is wise to ask advice from others and in Proverbs 15 we can read that plans fail for lack of counsel but with many advisers they succeed. But it’s also important to care most about what God thinks. Often when we pray, we make all these requests but then fail to wait and LISTEN. God knows your heart and loves you. He has the best advice.

In the Bible when Paul was talking to the Colossians, he told them that they could have a peace in their heart when a decision was made. It’s important that we aren’t seeking the approval of others or just relying on our feelings. God does answer us. Sometimes the answer is “no” and sometimes we can’t hear because we tell God what we want and ask Him to bless it rather than asking Him if it’s a direction He even wants us to take. Feelings come and go but the peace of God will remain…everyday.

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Everyday Questions

God will never tire of us seeking Him or of all our questions. I think of my kids and especially when they were younger and all the questions they had.. But I always want them to know I love them no matter what. I imagine it’s a lot like God with us. As T.S. Elliot put it; “Oh my soul, be prepared to meet Him who knows how to ask questions.” I imagine questions from God might be? Did you know Me and how I much I loved you for all eternity?

There are things about God that are mysterious and secret, things we will never know about Him. But there also are things revealed, and those belong to us. Deuteronomy 29:29; “The Lord our God has secrets known to no one. We are not accountable for them, but we and our children are accountable forever for all He has revealed to us, so that we may obey all the terms of these instructions.” I follow and trust God because I know He loves me no matter what …everyday.

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Everyday God Speaks

Are you listening? Jesus is speaking. Hear His voice; “You are forgiven. Today is a new day. God’s Word from Lamentations 3:23: “Great is My mercy. It’s new every morning and great is My faithfulness. Everyday I try to “be better” by choosing what I should think on and how I should behave which often means I remain silent, shut my mouth and pray. Just think of the amazing gift God offers us! We have an opportunity to receive God’s forgiveness which means our soiled sin rags are washed and made t white by the blood of the Lamb.” (Revelation 7:14)

Don’t be discouraged. There’s a whole lot of us who so wanted to be faithful, but who at times got defeated, beat-up by life and tested by trials. We have the bloodied garments of life’s tribulations, but through it all we clung to the faith. This is the Gospel of Grace. So with me, let’s celebrate. Let’s raise “a glass of hope,” receive and share this love and grace with others. Carry on Christian Soldiers, onward and upward…everyday.

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Everyday Biker

As Nathan was training for America’s largest mountain bike racing series, he was thankful that biking had kept he and his brother, Kyle, connected through Kyle’s drug addiction. And thankfully in the last two years of Kyle’s life he overcame his addiction via a 12-step program and a relationship with God. Kyle died in a freak car accident which was crazy tragic. Yet there’s peace and hope that replaced the tragedy because they knew they’d see Kyle again.

The night before the big bike race Nathan made a dedication and said, “I let go of all performance pressures and made up my mind to ride for the love of God, Kyle, and the sport itself.” No matter what the results I was giving this race to God because I realized more than ever that it wasn’t about me. It was about what God was doing in and through me. When Nathan walked up to the podium for his first overall win at this huge race, he never heard such cheering. “Sure, the prestige and prize money are great” said Nathan, “but relationships and loving others is what lasts…everyday.”

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Everyday Supposed To

Many of us are not fans of the words; “You’re not supposed to do that.” Sometimes, hearing those words only makes us want to do what we’re told not to. I remember my friend Karen saying, “Today I went down the road that had a sign that said; “No thru traffic” and I thought of you. I didn’t know whether to be proud or mortified.

What it comes down to is this; I don’t want to be a predictable cookie-cutter Christian, but I do what to be known as a predictable loyal and sincere friend. We all want what’s unique and special about us to be appreciated and so for many of us it is not doing things like “we’re supposed to.” The one thing I do try and do is said by Jesus in Matthew 8:22; “Follow Me.” “Yes, I'll go where He wants me to go and do what He wants me to do because He is God. He knows you’re unique and He created you for a specific purpose now and into eternity…everyday.

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Everyday God Comfort

I know you’ve been disappointed, hurt or mistreated. I get it. There’s a loss and an ache that you just can’t explain because maybe you don’t get it either. 2 Corinthians 1:3 says that God wants to help by comforting you and sometimes that means going to counseling to work through turmoil but nevertheless God gives us the Holy Spirit to guide us. He’s actually called the Comforter/Counselor. He’s available 24/7.

In the early years of my marriage, I’d become angry with my husband Dan when he wouldn’t comfort me the way I thought I needed. But when I began reading the Bible consistently, I began to see a change in my marriage and in ALL my relationships because God was changing me. If our expectations are in the wrong place, we’ll always be disappointed. Of course, God uses other people to reach us, but He promises to always be our comfort and sometimes it’s through a song, a circumstance or a direct word from scripture. Seek Him. He sees you and wants to bring you comfort and hope …everyday.