Friday Matters

Everyday Dark Valley

I had a season of depression and anxiety that I walked in for over three months in 2009, and it was so wretched that I actually had thoughts of, “Maybe it would be better if I wasn’t around.” But God brought me through this time, and I can understand how that season helped shape my faith. It’s like the words I read by Dr. Timothy Laniak, “This journey through the shadows purges the soul of its pride and earthly attachment. Our challenge in dry and dark times is to respond in simple faith--to believe that the unseen Divine Shepherd is with us in our unlit valley. We grope in hope until rays of light begin to push the night away. Eventually, as Job confessed, 'He reveals mysteries from the darkness, and brings us into the light.’" Job 12:22

Having emerged from the dark valley I now have a more balanced response to the mountain tops. And because of those difficult valleys, I can help others through their dark valleys that seem ever so dark and lonely. Jesus understands you and He will never leave you no matter how dark it gets…everyday.

Thursday Matters

Everyday Elijah

In the Bible, Elijah was a prophet and miracle worker who lived during the reign of King Ahab in the northern kingdom of Israel. He is known for pursuing God’s people to worship God alone, no other gods, no other idols and Elijah continually admonished Israel to not be corrupted by Baal. His struggle was real and exhausting because Israel seemed to be in continued rebellion against God and yet God never leaves them.

Nevertheless, Elijah becomes exhausted and “over it” with the evil people of his time and so much so that he runs away and ask God to take his life but Elijah’s story takes a turn when He hears God speak in a still small voice and not through the earthquake, wind and fire that passes by him on Mount Sinai. Turns out Elijah needed a rest, a meal which God provided. We often look to the spectacular of God’s work but look to Him in the simple way He speaks His love to you through the scripture. His word of grace and provision in a difficult season is what Elijah needed and what we all need which is to rest in God…everyday.

Wednesday Matters

Everyday Return Home

Jesus welcomes ALL of us to Him. He is our Home. He pursues us, loves us. The prodigal son returned home, and the father ran to Him, unconditional love with no condemnation. What the father didn't do was go and join his son in his sin. We can turn to God and receive His grace or reject Him. It seems more often that we read of Christians deconstructing their faith and what I see is people moving away from the church and religion. It's hard to imagine anyone turning away from Christ and His loving kindness.

God’s mercy is new every morning and great is His faithfulness. I’m thankful because I used my allotted grace amount yesterday. Everyday it will get better and yes, even on those days you get kicked in the pants with the news you were dreading but you can move on and move forward because noting is wasted with God. It may be that God is training and testing you in this trial and in time you may thank Him for it. God loves you. He sees and knows and is right beside you…everyday.

Tuesday Matters

Everyday Praise in Pain

It’s bizarre. “Praise God in the pain.” What? But I’ve done this, and it works. Oh, believe me, I don’t feel like praising God, but I do it because I know I have an enemy and he doesn’t like it because it weakens him. Praising God’s goodness, wisdom and love during times of pain and heartache is a beautiful expression of faith in action, a living expression of trust that shows Romans 8:28 is true; “God makes all things work together for the good of those who have been called according to His will.”

I came across this little book by Dr. Robert Frost who wrote, “There is nothing more precious to God than our praise during affliction. Not praise for what the devil has done, but praise for the redeeming power of our loving heavenly Father. What He does not protect us from; He will perfect us through. There is indeed a special blessing for those who do not become offended at God during adversity. INSTEAD, we become a special blessing to Him…everyday.

Monday Matters

Everyday Psalm Covering

When feeling lonely or afraid I go to the Psalms for comfort. It’s actually helpful to lament and express what we’re feeling so we don’t let us consume us. Psalm 91:4 really hit me the other day; “Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. He will shield you with His wings. He will shelter you with His feathers. His faithful promises are your armor and protection.” Imagine God like the Psalm reads-- a strong and majestic eagle Who’s there to shield you with His wings and protect you with His feathers.

When you’re fearful and anxious don’t think about the “what ifs” and other scenarios that will make you more anxious. Instead think about God’s promises of protection and redemption. In Romans 8:28 He promises to work all things for the good. Not all things are good, but God always is. It takes courage to walk forward in faith despite your feelings, but you can do it because God, the Protector will cover you and He’s as near as your heartbeat...everyday.

Friday Matters

Everyday Jesus Knows Rahab

Maybe you want to hide, and not disclose your past because you think it defines who you are right now? Well, it doesn’t. Come into the light of God’s love and let Him reveal the truth of who He says you are…beautiful and redeemed. There was a woman Rahab, a woman who had worked as a prostitute who lived in the “Promised Land,” the land God had promised to give to the Israelites. Joshua, their leader, sent spies to Jericho before entering the land to get the scope of the land and people. Rahab hid the spies in her home and in Joshua 2 she is told; “If you don’t betray us, we will keep our promise and be kind to you when the Lord gives us the land.” And that’s what happened.

Rahab had a past, but she got “past it” and at the end of her life she had come to love the God of Israel. Sometimes when you’re so wreaked and wretched it is when the light can pierce your darkness. No matter how bad your past is God has forgiveness, a future and new beginning for you…everyday.

Thursday Matters

Everyday Loving Father

Do you picture God as a loving Father or a disciplinarian Father? To know God as a loving Father is to know that He isn't looking at you for all the good and right deeds you’re doing while as the same time trying to live a good, moral, and productive life. That’s not why He loves you. He loves you right where you are with all your messy mistakes and sin. It’s out of love for you that He came to cover and forgive you, so you don’t have to hide who you are. You can expose all of who you are, and God forgives with His love and grace, perfectly.

His death on the cross and resurrection give us hope to keep on keeping on. We don’t have to earn His love or be “good enough” because we never could. It will never be about what we sacrifice for God but what He sacrificed for us. We can look forward to a place where there's no more pain or tears, a place to reunite with loved ones, who've passed from this life, and together we can celebrate and live joyfully…everyday.

Wednesday Matters

Everyday Questions

I remember the season in life when I had four sons under the age of 7 years old and it was constantly busy and constant questions. I love my boys, don’t get me wrong but some days I thought I might explode if they asked me one more question with the sentence beginning with the word, “MOM……. I remind young moms now, “The days are long, but the years are short.”

But no matter how many questions they asked I always wanted them to be sure that they knew one important answer and that is, I would never stop loving them. The same is true with the love of Christ. There isn't anything about us, with our past or present or our questions that would cause Him to withdraw from us. He welcomes our questions and He’s okay with where we’re at. But never forget the life changing answer He gives us in John 14:6, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me…everyday.

Tuesday Matters

Everyday Jesus Forgives

"How do we love and accept difficult people?” Someone asked me that question. I know…right? God loves us ALL and we are all created in His image. The ONLY way to love others genuinely is by the love God gives to us. 2 Peter 1:9 really made me think, “For whoever lacks the genuine quality of love is blind to what they have been given from accepting Christ. Jesus has wiped off, erased from the books, our own sinful lives.” He's cleared us. We’re free.

I KNOW it’s hard. You’re hurt. It’s unfair. The “other person” has the problem and not you. BUT love covers. God covers you; He sees and knows all the stuff you shouldn’t have done and the things you should’ve done and He still loves you. Forgiveness sets you free. Sometimes I need to ask Jesus to forgive someone for me. So, I picture Him going to the person who’s hurt me and issuing a pardon and then He comes back to me and says, “It’s done. I did it for you. God’s amazing like that.…everyday.

Monday Matters

Everyday No More Shame

The message of Jesus is to LOVE and forgive others, which you can only do once you have seen your bad self and accepted His forgiveness. There’s this past so many people carry around that they cover because it’s filled with shame from harming themselves through “cutting,” an eating disorders, an affair, alcohol, abuse suffered, it’s all yuck. I read that 80% of memories are shame based. People carry shame because they think once they’re fully exposed or discovered they won’t ever be accepted or loved. But when their identity is solid, they’re stable. That’s why it’s vital that you hear who God says you are, loved, redeemed, not a mistake AND there’s sufficient grace for every second.

Psalm 91:1 is my 911 verse. It reads; “She who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will remain stable.” It means that when I can stand still and let myself be exposed. God covers me, my shame, my fear and replaces all that I’m not with all that He is. God can see the real you and He loves you…everyday.

Friday Matters

Everyday Real Life

In one simple month all of life seemed to fall apart. Brandon had lost his job; the family’s golden retriever had died, and Brandon’s wife was back at the clinic again to try new antibiotics to combat her bronchitis. God, where are you? If He loves us, won’t He take the pain away or at least some of it? Remember God is always with us, and He isn’t surprised by what’s happening. Everything must pass through His hands first.

Sometimes a tragedy is where we meet God for the first time. We must lose religion, where it’s all about rules and proving ourselves, and instead rest in a personal relationship with God who knows exactly what we’re going through and how to take care us. Jesus working through us and not focusing on our own works or man’s laws is what’s important. God always loves us. He will not fail us. Grasp hold of His grace and mercy with both hands to find hope…everyday.

Thursday Matters

Everyday Guitar

Relationships that rock your world in the worst way are ones we want ejected from our memory and our playlist of heartache. But the pain of the past doesn’t have to define your future. Janet shared; “It’s been ten years since my abusive ex-fiancé sold my favorite guitar. He sold it on the day I left him. When I went to claim my belongings, he was proud that he had sold my guitar to a pawn shop. Luckily, I managed to track down the guy who bought it from the pawn shop. He was sweet, and gave it back to me for free, on condition that I joined him on his front porch to play guitar with him. We ended up sitting there on his porch for the rest of the afternoon playing music and talking.” He’s been Janet’s husband for nine years now.

With Jesus there’s redemption in all things. I know it might feel like you’re in control when you’re the one in control but surrendering control of your heart to God is where healing and redemption will bring freedom and hope…everyday.

Wednesday Matters

Everyday God View

Have you ever found yourself reading the Bible entirely through the lens of what you want and what you feel? That is likely a trap and danger we've all faced. The statement, "I'm living own truth," is one I hear often and for me it translates as, "I'm doing what I feel is right regardless of what anyone else thinks, especially God."

St Augustine said, "If you believe in the Gospel what you like, and leave out what you don’t like, it’s not the Gospel you believe, but yourself.”

Living truthfully, for me, means to trust that God is good even when my circumstances and I are not. Do I trust that God is a Redeemer and that all things that happen to me will work into the good because He loves me and has called me for a purpose? (Romans 8:28) Honestly, it’s hard to wrap my mind around the truth that God doesn't love me because I'm good, but He loves me because He is good…everyday.

Tuesday Matters

Everyday Secure Stronghold

Believe me, I know what it means to hurt. The recovery from my scoliosis back surgery was horrendous both physically and emotionally. And I was surprised at how the issues resulting in my parents’ divorce of 44 years affected me emotionally and physically too. Hurt from someone you love is pure pain. But I’ve noticed that the more I open-up and share my heart of pain the more people respond to sharing their own hurts of an unfaithful spouse, abuse, absent love from a parent and the pain from their own children. Oh, the sins of others have such painful consequences for so many of us.

So more than ever I’ve been holding on to Zechariah 9:12 by returning to Jesus my stronghold of security and prosperity as a prisoner of hope; believing that God will restore double for my trouble. Real hope is given by the grace of God through the Holy Spirit. It’s about trusting that God is good and a Redeemer, no matter what may happen. Yes, hope is the belief that things will change for the better…everyday.

Monday Matters

Everyday Boldness in Fear

“My husband has cancer” I wrote that in the subject line of an email that I sent to family and friends in 2010. My brother responded, “Wow, Deb that’s powerfully blunt to write in the subject line.” I know. But it helps me to face what I fear. There are so many times the enemy has used fear to immobilize me, and in those times, he whispers lies against the truth I know. Philippians 1:28 is great because it says that not for a moment should we be frightened or intimidated by our adversaries, for such constancy and fearlessness will be a clear sign to them of their impending destruction, but sure evidence of our deliverance from God.”

Satan knows that the only way he can overcome a believer is through deception and intimidation. Sometimes, I get so frustrated with myself when what I know to be true from God, gets knocked out by my intense feelings, but God understands that about me too. Dan is cancer free, and we thank God, but we thank Him because He’s good no matter what happens…everyday.

Friday Matters

Everyday A Season

The letter began, “Debbie I’m struggling. I’ve been unemployed since September; I have an aunt who is in the hospital and my husband is constantly reminding me that he’s the one who’s paying the bills. I feel frustrated and far away from God.

Feeling far away from God and like He doesn’t care is what the devil wants you to feel and think. Satan is keen on feeding us lies and his two favorites are the “forever” lie and the “never” lie. He tells us about the negative things in our lives will never change and will forever be the way they are. He says the way you are right now will stay that way “forever.” Lies. The truth is God is good and He has plans to bring you wholeness from your brokenness of pain and regret. Trust in God because bad things ultimately give way to better things. Ecclesiastes 3:1; TO EVERYTHING there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven…everyday!

Thursday Matters

Everyday The Heart

Take comfort in knowing only God knows your heart yet I know it stings when someone judges you harshly because they can’t see your heart. The human heart is arrogant, and often cares for itself above all, prone to judge others, prone to make demands of others. The heart is also needy and incomplete with holes that can only be repaired by love, by God perfect love.

Where’s the healing for it all? Jesus. He is it, His Word which is both justice and mercy. First, we must deeply understand and truly own our brokenness. 1 John 1:8 people, “If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” When you seriously humble yourself and see your own depravity you won’t have time to judge your neighbor. Whatever righteousness we possess was given to us by the victory of Christ’s death and resurrection. Humble yourself. Receive the grace God gives and though Him you’ll be able to give grace to another fellow sinner…everyday.

Wednesday Matters

Everyday Need Grace

Okay there’s this kind of Christians who is “stuck” outside the tension between law and grace – and specifically I’m talking about those who don’t know they need grace. I have been that girl at various times myself.

When you don’t know you need grace you come to the counseling room in righteous indignation. You come with your “rights” and “it’s not fair because there’s a sinner worse than you. This may include the spouse who drags their partner along to get fixed, the partner who doesn’t think they need fixing, the person angry with God for failing to fulfill their dreams and the one who simply cannot forgive. Accepting Christ means acknowledging our sin with the only cure being His grace. Jesus desires to confront the blackness of our hearts and change us. PRAY for yourself and others who need to KNOW and SEE how much we need His grace, because without it we can’t really love others…everyday.

Tuesday Matters

Everyday Jealousy

A few years ago, I watched a music video of a woman I used to mentor. I was amazed at the talent and beauty she displayed. But instead of feeling happy for her, I was jealous; “Why her?” Jealousy is one of the most dangerous poisons which can literally destroy us. It’s challenging because we know we shouldn’t be jealous so we pretend it’s not happening, and we find reasons why the other person shouldn’t have success.

I called my husband and said, “I’m jealous.” As soon as I brought my jealousy to the light it no longer had power over me. I was able to congratulate my friend, and the poison of envy didn’t infect me. We have a special friendship and I’m proud of her. King Solomon asks; “Who can stand before jealousy?” No one can because it’s as cruel as the grave. It’s hard to be honest about this part of our lives, the jealousy that creeps in so let God show you the success He has for you by you BEING YOU…everyday.

Monday Matters

Everyday Flower Shout

I am not a gardening type of gal, so I was thrilled when a many years ago my 9-year-old Joey took on the responsibility of planting and watering the flowers in our large window box. One day as he was watering the flowers I heard him shouting in short staccato intervals which made him sound like a barking dog. Joey, “What is going on?” I said as I ran outside. Why are you doing?” “I’m giving the flowers a shout. “I’m gonna do this everyday because, you know, Mom the carbon dioxide from my shouts helps them to grow.”

“Alrighty,” I said and walked inside thinking how funny it was but also how this shouting could be effective for me too. Psalm 100:1 says, “Shout with joy to the Lord!” The goal is not to shout to get the joy or try to feel the joy but more because we have the joy and we want to release it with a shout. I’ve decided that joyful shouting is a good way for me to bloom right where I’m planted…everyday.